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Quit Making Our Deaf Youth into Sissies! 
17th-Jun-2008 11:46 am
 There's a vlog on DeafRead that talks about how a No Cut policy is a good thing.  If you haven't seen it yet, go.  Here's the link: http://www.ascdeaf.com/blog/  There's also some links to some written material as well.  Basically, they're saying that competition is bad, bad, bad and we need to protect the fragile minds of our deaf youth.

Our deaf youth already have enough challenges standing in the way of them and success.  They do NOT need to be mollycoddled into thinking that competition is bad just because, gosh darn it!, someone's feelings might be hurt.

Competition is part of human nature.  It's inbred.  It cannot be avoided.  Need someplace to live?  So do about seven billion other people on this planet.  There's competition right there.  Need something to eat?  In some countries, it's a daily struggle (also known as a COMPETITION) to find enough nourishment.  The world does not have unlimited resources.  People NEED to compete to get what they need.

I could argue that competition is what enables us to survive.  Take AIDS, for example.  Terrible, terrible disease.  Our scientists and doctors right now are in competition with AIDS because they want to beat it.  There have been many setbacks in finding a cure for AIDS, but that competitive spirit is what keeps our researchers going.  That is what led smallpox and polio to be eliminated.

Take competition away and what happens?  Our young people lose the opportunity to learn the value of resilience.  They do not develop the impetus to look within themselves and find what else they might be good at.  Yes, losing hurts.  However, it is also a chance to see how that disappointment can be changed into a victory.  Perhaps the kid will practice harder so next time, his slot will be more secure.  Competition, when managed correctly, leads to self-discovery.

I agree that there is an ugly side to competition.  We've all seen the out of control parent and the disrespect that players show each other.  But this is NOT a good enough reason to label all competition as bad.  It's actually a good opportunity to teach responsibility and civility.

There is some research that says that children do not handle winning and losing well before the age of nine.  OK, fine.  But that doesn't mean we can't introduce the CONCEPT of competition before then (i.e.  "You're playing and learning now but later on . . . ").

Kids aren't stupid.  They can turn on the TV and see the results of competition.  To deny that, to keep them in a bubble where everyone "is a winner!" is not only lamebrained, it's irresponsible.  I would also wager that it leads to the path of EXPECTING everything to be fair.  'Taint so.  

Kid gets cut from the baseball team?  Encourage him to look elsewhere.  That's the great thing about this country . . . you have the freedom to make CHOICES.  You're not limited to what's in front of you.
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17th-Jun-2008 08:25 pm (UTC)
Fantastic post! Couldn't have said it better myself. As a former athlete, I understand all too well the pressures of competition, the stress of facing "cuts" and so on. Are they real? Of course they are. Does it hurt if you get cut? Of COURSE it does, I've been cut and I know how much it hurts. The child who gets cut has two options: they can work harder on their own and take another crack at it next year, or next go around, or they can find something they DO excel at. For some, it is academic teams, for others, it is a different sport entirely, and for yet others, it is neither of these.

Someone very wise once told me "never make fun of the gravedigger, if not for him, we wouldn't be able to bury our dead because not everyone will do that job". That person was my grandfather, and he was absolutely right. Some people just aren't cut out for certain things. Don't we all wish we were all superstars? Of course we do, but it doesn't work that way, and thats okay. They can still do whatever it is they do best. For some, finding that "thing" they do best is a lifelong journey, for others, it gets dropped right into their lap when tey least expect it.

I encourage schools to let all kids participate at the elementary school and little league levels, or even the YMCA level. But at some point in time, they must face the cold hard realities of life. Not everyone makes it, not everyone lines up for the million dollar contracts, not everyone will live in big fancy houses and drive Mercedes. And that's okay, they are still good people (for the most part), and they are still valuable and have something to contribute. That is the lesson we need to be teaching in schools across the country, not the lesson of entitlement.
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