Monday, October 1, 2007

CODA BROTHERS: HONESTY IS THE BEST POLICY

29 comments:

Anonymous said...

That is very true that I keep telling hearing people at work as honesty. I noticed how they behave strange to me that they think that I hurt their feeling.They did hurt my feeling few times. I know that we are different people.It is little strange that they try to look up at me how I work.

Gary Brooks said...

oh no!! you got me in the dressing room! shoot!! don't tell anyone what you both saw! top secret plezzzzzzz!!! I don't want anyone know!!!

and yes honest is the best way!!! that's why I said "truth hurts!" hahahaah I tell them the truth, they get so mad!!! if I don't tell them the truth then they love me more!!! huh???? anyway you got good point Coda Brothers!!!!
I see you at the movie!
Gary Brooks ;)

IamMine said...

lol loved how you were waving at the audience! ;)

It's true...glad you bought this up to let hearies know!

Although I do think some of us come off way too strong - like, if you know a person is really sensitive, don't be too blunt, you know?

This bought back memories of one extremely - I mean extremely - nervous interpreter for one of my college courses where she was in training and my courses were tough.

She squirmed way too much and her chair would be moving too much! The other terp - my regular terp - would be looking at her like she was an alien from another world!

"Did I interpret ok??" *whimpers*

"Did I do that right?!" *sits up again, causing the chair to slide back, tries to remember how to breath*

She tried so hard not to cry during the class...

How could I be blunt with her?

It was a one time thing so I just said nothing and I was like, "thank god it's over..."

Anonymous said...

I guess it is because we are based on visaulity. What we see is totally different what the hearies see/hear... Intersting, isn't it? Ah, ahem, what can we do, grinning?

deafk

Anonymous said...

Hey Boys!

That is very true. It's the part of the deaf culture.

We never intend to hurt other people's feelings, otherwise, they would not know what they were doing.

Honesty is the best way for us to get to know ourselves better.

Honesty have taught us to identify ourselves better.

We sometimes thank someone/body/people for being so honest IF we make some changes for the better lives. Honesty is a good word for us to learn to deal with.

Think about "The Biggest Loser" gang. They set the examples because they were trained NOT to hide themselves from all the good and bad honests. They have faced the reality world.

White Ghost

Kim said...

A great way to start my day! I often wonder if it's based on people's education background..
My deaf grandpa was very blunt while my deaf grandma was netural. Gma was college educated, and literate (always had her nose in books).
As a college educated person, I don't say 'you bald, fat, etc..'.. I often said nothing as I don't want them to tell me that I gained weight, too. ha
Don't know if it's really related to education background.. Wondering about the generation of deaf people graduating from public schools ~ how blunt they are?
I truly LOVE your vlogs! You both are FUN FUN to watch!

Lisa Marie said...

Hats to you. That's very true! The interpreter asked me what I think of her interpreting. I can't really lie and I was trying to be nice. I just said to her that she's doing good but needs a lot of practice. She's upset. I don't know what to do.

I can't really trust hearies if they were really telling me the truth? *grins*

For an example, I was hurry to get dressed and I don't like my clothes...Hearies see me and tell me how pretty I was.

Come on!

Deaf Dixie said...

GEEEEEEEEEEE!!!!!!! I wanna marry you guys ha ha ha because you both can make me laugh everyday... You both are so damn cool I ever see.. Keep it up!!!!

Deaf Pixie said...

It make a sense of about ASL Language that I remind hearing people who doesnt understand between foregin or Amercian language. It is really confusion with syntax issues are quiet confused. Hearing people need to take a ASL language if they are interested.

I agree with you. Thank you for brought up issues. I feel that people seem not familiar between ASL is in Forgein language. Three agencies from hearing people who working for ASL interpreter I often end up mess up with hearing people with medical vocubarly. They hire non certificate interprete who is not have a certificate and Hosptial or Clinic doesnt familiar to use hire non certificate from forgien language. Mess up. I agree with you that ASL is your own language. I think forgein language should not hire non certificate interpreter who is not familiar with ASL language.

Anonymous said...

Yes.. Deaf people can be brutally honest. We need to learn about the equiette. I think we deaf people lack this. But when you share your stories. I laughed because I been there and I can relate your stories. HAHAHA!! Loads of laughters.

Hugs!

deafk said...

To Kim,

I agree with you about educated deaf people tending to be more netural than deaf people that do not go to college. I have experienced that myself here, smile.

deafk

deafk said...

To you guys,

please do keep up!! I love ya'll!!

deafk

Codadiva said...

Hi Guys,
What a great "shout out" to your peeps.

Honesty is the best policy! I use it and my hearing friends are taken aback when I am "blunt".

Totally funny role-playing.

Do you take requests? I have one that I will email you! LOL

codadiva

Michelle D said...

Your topic on honesty is very true. I notice that most deaf people tend to speak out whatever's on their minds. Even though they didn't realize that it'd offend hearing people. Hearing people don't always speak out whatever's on their mind.
I think deaf people tend to do that because they are being starved to be with other deaf people - not seen them for long time or not see them that much. They'd do anything to catch up news or keep in touch.
It happened to me many times. To us, deaf people, that we felt it's normal but to hearing people it's not normal. Heh.. That's us!

RustyCyot said...

Hi,
Love watching the blogs!! Love reading the comments :)
It was interesting to read about the difference in education background. I've noticed those who've grew up totally in the Deaf Schools are more blunt and straightforward than those who've been mainstreamed or "day student" like I was. I attended public school then switch to Deaf school for High School. I was pretty suprised at the bluntness of fellow students. I kind of assumed that Deafies would be "more empathic" with each other because of the "oppression" or "rudeness" of hearing people against them. Ya know what I mean? Sort of "I don't want another Deafie to feel put down by what I say because Hearies already do it to us" Kind of thinking. Tell me what ya think??

DeafKathy (Wilson) said...

Honesty or backstabbing, which one would I rather to face with?? Of course the HONESTY! You did fab job greeting everyone at the beginning. You made it look so real that you are actually "live" while watching and I almost "wave" my hand toward to the PC. Glad I didnt cuz there are co-workers around here at work.

Joey Baer said...

Excellent vlog - we need more of that to help people understand our culture. The more people understand our culture, the more respect we will get. Appreciate that.

Love your vlogs too and now I wonder if I should add some humors in my vlogs. :)

Deb Kasper said...

I laugha laugha laugha...you two are so fun to watch...Keep up the Vblogs!! Called Amy right away to let her know you two mentioned her name. So damn funny to watch you two. Please come to Coda Reunion in Wisc!! Can hunt anytime!! Can't get together with your coda family as often!!

Mark Maki said...

Hello Coda Brothers-

you guys always funny I love to watch you guys on Vlogs! yes that is true I noticed that I do that that is part of our culture. Thank you for bring up this topic let hearing people read Deafread to learn about our ASL and Culture. I learn alot myself too. that why Iam so addicted to read and Vlogs on Deafread.com. Iam looking forward to see more of your Vlogs!!

TwilightZone said...

I love you guys! Love your energy!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

I'm hooked.....keep your story coming! Story or Stories!

michele said...

Yeah, it is true that we are brutally honest -- we don't like to beat around the bush -- but then when we do it with hearing people, we suddenly feel awkward knowing that maybe we made them upset or whatever.

I am a Deaf mother. One time, my koda daughter bluntly told my mother that she wanted to kiss her butt. My mother was taken aback with her response and didn't know how to respond back to that. My daughter had fondness of saying the word, "butt" many times that it embarrassed a lot of hearies. Naturally, I didn't know about it until my mother told me and I had to explain to her not to use the word, "butt". But now that I look back, I think it is funny!!

Please bring more stories like this....

Jennifer said...

I find it funny how folks enter their comments under "anonymous" with their "honest" input! haha

PANY Lighthouse said...

***Hands Waving, Laughing off the Floor***

True, true, true!!! Thanks a million for bringing up this rarely-discussed topic a notch! We, the deaf, are very RAW and BLUNT and we couldn't help it as it is a part of our deaf culture. I recently presented this BLUNTNESS part of my Deaf experience to the science classes (hearing students) at a middle school with a mainstreamed Deaf program and the hearing kids were in awe -- asking if Deaf people are "true biz" with the bluntness -- I tell them Y-E-S. What a coincidence!

A well-done job, CODA Brothers!

Anonymous said...

hey! I love watching your vlog. I look forward to seeing you both again. I would like to ask you if you both invite your Deaf parents and tell us the story of how proud your parents of your interest in ASL. You look alike a Deaf to me. Hey, Deaf subscribers, what do you think of my request? Smile.

Bill said...

Hmmm - so which culture is "right"? So often we (hearing?) tell our children (and have been told by our parents) not to stare, not to make comments, not to draw attention to others differences. Maybe this was bad training?

Anonymous said...

YES! it is so embarrassing when i interpret for one of my moms friend and they will just straight out tell someone something. and then i have to say it.
ughh. i get so embarrased because then the person im talking to looks at me. lol

Amanda

arezoo said...

hey.. i am proud myself and honest too i am also CODA... my parent and aunt r deaf even my husband's family all are deaf....
i enjoy ur show...
i will keep check vlog on u...

arezoo said...

hey.. i am proud myself and honest too i am also CODA... my parent and aunt r deaf even my husband's family all are deaf....
i enjoy ur show...
i will keep check vlog on u...

John Critser said...

Honesty is telling like as it is! We love to read the expressions on the face to gauge the reaction from simply being honest to ya. But sometimes we do it not even knowing or realizing we were pretty upfront with everything we visualize from our eyes. I love honesty because, if someone has hurt my feelings (too fat, short hair, clothes that do not match, etc), I can at least improvise (go workout, grow longer hair, buy new clothes that match)...

At least I get their attention if I am so boring...