Deafinitely girly

5 Deaf Girly Life Hacks for Deaf Awareness Week
Deafinitely girly Deafness throws many things at me but one of the most noticable things is the ability to make me feel ALL the emotions possible in the space of about a minute. Happy, Sad, Frustrated, Angry, Embarrassed, Shy, Empowered, Upset, Hysterical, Exhausted, Inspired, Creative But how do I deal with them all? Aside from medicating with copious amounts of chocolate? Her...
Thu, May 17 2018

Deaf Girly and education
Deafinitely girly It's Day Three of Deaf Awareness week. Gosh that's going fast isn't it?I couldn't talk about all things deafness without covering education - but I warn you that this isn't the most positive subject for me. It's not something I find it easy to write about in my usual jovial manner. However, it turns out it's rather topical at the moment because apparently one third of...
Wed, May 16 2018

Deaf Girly's deafness dos and don'ts
Deafinitely girly It's the second day of Deaf Awareness Week and today I'm making it all about me. Here are the 10 dos and don'ts about my deafness. The things that will make me happy, sad and mad!! DO remember that deafness doesn't define meIt's part of who I am but it's not all I want to be remembered or known for... It's a fine balance between understanding my needs and assuming th...
Tue, May 15 2018

Deaf Girly's Deaf Awareness Week
Deafinitely girly This week I am celebrating Deaf Awareness Week 4,500 miles away from London in a country so hot that I had to take out my hearing aids yesterday as I could feel the heat of the casing behind my ears. It's 44 degrees centigrade, people!Anyway, Deaf Awareness Week is a brilliant time to find out new things about hearing loss and deafness, and I truly believe that there'...
Mon, May 14 2018

Deaf Girly's 522nd Thankful Friday
Deafinitely girly Bringing my 10th birthday week to a close, it seems apt to write a Thankful Friday post. Back in the early days, I used to do one of these every week, but nowadays they're reserved for special occasions.And this Thankful Friday is really about the fact that FJM is unexpectedly back in the country. For one week. ONE WHOLE WEEK! *beamsIt's very nice to be in the same co...
Fri, Apr 27 2018

Deafinitely Girly turns 10!
Deafinitely girly On this day, 10 years ago, I published my very first blog on DeafinitelyGirly.com. I'd never blogged before but after someone challenged me to write my ideal column, Deaf Girly was born. I am so glad she was.Deaf Girly helped me navigate my way through some incredibly challenging personal and professional times in my twenties. She was my voice when I just wanted to â€...
Mon, Apr 23 2018

Deaf Girly and the deaf heroine in Dark Pines
Deafinitely girly So today is a very thankful Friday.Today I learnt from The Bookseller that Lionsgate – think Mad Men, Orange is the New Black – has optioned television rights for Will Dean's fabulous first book Dark Pines.Tuva Moodyson should soon (taps foot impatiently) be on a TV screen near you. A deaf main character. Who doesn't sign but speaks. Who struggles to fight the ste...
Fri, Apr 06 2018

Deaf Girly and captioned Harry Potter and the Cursed Child
Deafinitely girly Last week something very exciting happened. Eighteen months after buying the tickets for me and FJM, we finally got to head to the Palace Theatre to watch Harry Potter and the Cursed Child with Stagetext captions... and it was AMAZING. I've written a lot about the importance of captions and how about before I knew I was deaf and even once I knew I was deaf, I simply...
Mon, Apr 02 2018

Deaf Girly and International Women's Day
Deafinitely girly Today is International Women's Day. And this year's theme is #PressforProgress.Now, I am going to be honest with you, this is the first year I've ever really got my head around International Women's Day and a lot of that has to do with the company I've been contracting for. It's an amazing global company with some incredible women in senior positions who are all commi...
Thu, Mar 08 2018

Deaf Girly wants choices
Deafinitely girly The other night, I tweeted the following words: "As a deaf person, it seems the one thing I'm fighting for more and more is choices. Options of which night to go to the cinema or theatre, a choice of what TV channel to watch, which TED talk to listen to, YouTube video to watch. We have less choice in life." Ok, maybe not the most succinct or eloquent tweet in the w...
Wed, Jan 31 2018

Deaf Girly and Naomi Broady
Deafinitely girly There's no getting away from the fact that I am a massive tennis fan... FJM really helped me fall in love with tennis because he explained what the commentators were saying and so instead of just watching the tennis on TV with no real idea what was going on, he gave me an insight into the actual game.It was amazing. I went from having no interest in tennis, because I ...
Tue, Jan 30 2018

Deaf Girly and the iPhone
Deafinitely girly I'm pretty happy with how I've hacked my life to make it work for me as a deaf person. In the absence of a hearing dog, I've rigged up an iPad baby alarm for the front door bell. I book meals out over apps on my phone, my GP surgery finally has a non-urgent online appointment system and I can text, FaceTime and picture message just about everyone I know. My life feels...
Fri, Jan 05 2018

Deaf Girly got married
Deafinitely girly Happy New Year peeps! It's 2018... I remember being excited about it being the year 2000... how on earth did it get to here so quickly?Anyway, as most of you already know, the end of 2017 was pretty special because FJM and I got married. On 17.12.17... a nice tidy date if you like that sort of thing.I blogged a little bit in the run up to the wedding about how I got a...
Wed, Jan 03 2018

Deaf Girly and Captioning Awareness Week
Deafinitely girly This week - from 6-11 November it's Captioning Awareness Week, which raises awareness of captioning and live subtitling.It's a bold statement but I'm going to go ahead and make it: Captioning saves lives And let me tell you how...For me, saving someone's life isn't just about restarting their heart, curing them of some hideous disease or pushing them out of the way of...
Thu, Nov 09 2017

Deaf Girly and subtitled Star Wars The Last Jedi
Deafinitely girly Today really is a very Thankful Friday.Last night, FJM and I were doing some #HOTY (honeymoon of the year) planning and yet again said how much we'd love to have a date night at the cinema in Edinburgh to see Star Wars: The Last Jedi when we up there for our honeymoon.FJM is a massive Star Wars fan, and he's always been very lovely at waiting until a subtitled showin...
Fri, Nov 03 2017

Deaf Girly on being brave
Deafinitely girly Every year on this day, I write a blog. It's always a blog about one of the best people I know. A blog about beer, Flashdance and Grand Designs. About learning to live in and love London.Memories are funny aren't they. Sometimes I struggle to remember what I did last week, but the memories of London Uncle are so super clear.So always on this day I remember him. Let of...
Fri, Oct 20 2017

Deaf Girly and the wedding planning
Deafinitely girly My first novel is about a deaf girl planning her wedding. When I first started writing it, I was single and couldn't ever imagine planning my own wedding. And yet here I am planning it. I find planning anything as a deaf person quite stressful. The quick and easy 'pick up the phone' option is not available to me, and with FJM in another country, I found myself getti...
Sat, Oct 07 2017

Deaf Girly and the deaf wobble
Deafinitely girly Usually when I go quiet on here, it's a sign that everything in my deaf world is tickety-boo and marvellous. It's a sign that I am comfortable in my deaf skin and ambling my way through life with the level of accessibility that I need. Usually the silences are good.I'd be lying if I said this was the case right now.I've taken a new job. I love this job. Fiercely love ...
Tue, Sep 05 2017

Deaf Girly and classical music
Deafinitely girly I didn't know I couldn't hear until I was 10.I have this really clear memory of seeing two girls signing to each other in a garden centre when I was about six years old and being fascinated about the idea of being deaf... little did I know, I already was.I didn't know that birds sang or green men beeped or that song lyrics were meant to be understood. I thought dictat...
Mon, Jun 19 2017

Deaf Girly: 5 things I wish I'd known about work at 23
Deafinitely girly I got my first dream job aged 23 in London. It had never occurred to me that I would struggle to find work because of my deafness, but in all honesty I think back then I added a hefty dose of denial to just how deaf I was. But if I could go back and give my 23-year-old self some advice, what would it be?1. Be fearlessBack then, I was scared of many, many things. Livin...
Wed, May 17 2017

Deaf Girly: 10 things I love about my deafness
Deafinitely girly Ok, so this week is Deaf Awareness Week and my Twitter is filled with fabulous infosnacks about deafness and advice and wotnot. It's brilliant.If there's one thing being deaf and the experiences that come with that have taught me, it's that no one size fits all with deafness. It's personal. And no one can tell you how you should be feeling or hearing.So with that in ...
Mon, May 15 2017

Deaf Girly and the London Underground
Deafinitely girly Yesterday evening, I got to watch the third episode of Inside the Tube: Going Underground presented by Rob Bell – and his Rab jacket – on Demand 5 after subtitles were finally added! And it did not disappoint. In fact, it's a must for anyone with a love of our amazing underground network.I've had a fascination with the London Underground since I was a little gir...
Wed, May 10 2017

Deaf Girly and the Great British Dog Walk
Deafinitely girly Last weekend, I was invited to take part in the Hearing Dogs Great British Dog Walk at Windsor Great Park and it was brilliant fun. This annual event helps raise money for Hearing Dogs for Deaf People and there are 20 walks around the UK – at time of writing there are still 11 walks you can get involved in too, from Exeter to Aberdeen... (although not literally of ...
Wed, May 03 2017

Why Deaf Girly doesn't carry cash
Deafinitely girly Back in February, I took part in a two-day induction at Hearing Dogs – there's a big blog coming soon about that – as part of my application process. It was amazing and I met so many wonderful people and had so many lightbulb moments about my deafness while talking to them.One of the loveliest people I met – Tracy – took me, and an adorable Hearing Dog, to a g...
Tue, Apr 11 2017

Deaf Girly and the Fitbit Blaze
Deafinitely girly I'm a bit of a tech geek - always have been, which was quite exciting in the 1980s and 90s when technology was moving at a fair old pace. I remember the first time I got a caption reader to add subtitles to videos, my mind was blown. When mobile phones came out, I got a really early one – a brick-like Panasonic with a capacity for 10 text messages and a massive k...
Wed, Apr 05 2017

Deaf Girly and the opticians
Deafinitely girly When it comes to vision and hearing, I am unfortunately blessed with very bad levels of both. I am comedy short-sighted, to the point that, if I was ever without my glasses or contact lenses, I would have a lot of difficulty navigating my way anywhere.I first realised just how short sighted I was while on a climbing trip at university. We were staying in a cheap camps...
Mon, Apr 03 2017

Deafinitely Girly world of employment
Deafinitely girly This morning, I read the latest report from the brilliant charity Scope about 'Why we need to see changes in support for disabled people in work' and it really struck a chord for me.I am disabled. I lie awake at night worrying about my job prospects and where my career is going. About my earning potential and the restrictions my disability places on my ability to do j...
Tue, Feb 14 2017

Deaf Girly and Jose Gonzalez
Deafinitely girly One of the highlights of this week – apart from a very lovely dinner with Fab Friend last night – was seeing José Gonzalez play live at the Royal Festival Hall with The Goteborg String Theory. I've loved José Gonzalez since I first saw him perform live in the mid 2000s – there's something about the richness of his voice, the lightness of his touch on the guit...
Fri, Jan 27 2017

Deaf Girly and the Gap advert
Deafinitely girly Yesterday was a beautifully sunny day and so I decided to go for a walk to get the things I needed to make curry that evening.On my way to the supermarket I walked past Gap's window and – as I am blessed with four fabulous godchildren – I took a look in the window to see what spring offerings were on show and what winter sale bargains there might be.And this caugh...
Mon, Jan 23 2017

Deaf Girly and the emergency sirens
Deafinitely girly One of the things I really don't hear – not even a little bit, not even at all, not even with my fancy Phonak hearing aids in – is ambulance sirens. I just about hear police sirens, if there's not too much background noise, and I can hear the low honking noise that fire engines make in built-up areas, but ambulances, I just cannot hear.I've had some near misses wi...
Wed, Jan 18 2017

Deaf Girly and the (inaccessible) Christmas Movies
Deafinitely girly One of my favourite things about Christmas – aside from the lovely family gatherings, endless snacks and chocolate, the sparkly tree and presents – is the festive movies. I absolutely love a Christmas film. Even terrible ones... and believe me, there are some terrible ones out there.There's just something about them – the warm and fuzzy feelings, the amazing sce...
Fri, Dec 30 2016

Deaf Girly downloads Netflix with subtitles
Deafinitely girly Today is thankful Friday and on waking this morning I was very thankful to receive an email from Netflix.In this email, Netflix told me that the recent iOS app update meant that I could now download programmes to watch offline!!I know!This was almost as exciting as when BBC iPlayer released this feature.But, being deaf and endlessly disappointed by these sort of thing...
Fri, Dec 02 2016

Deaf Girly visits John Lewis Haberdashery
Deafinitely girly Two weeks ago, after reading a news article in The Telegraph which said that John Lewis Haberdashery would be closing, I did something I've never done before – I set up a petition. A petition appealing to anyone who had ever bought a button to sign and show their love for John Lewis Haberdashery department. I'm sat here in a cafe in central London looking at ...
Fri, Nov 25 2016

Deaf Girly & the John Lewis petition update
Deafinitely girly So yesterday was a bit of a weird day – but weird in a good way.On Monday night, when I set up the 'Save John Lewis Haberdashery please...' petition, I had no idea that it would gain nearly 5,000 signatures. Or that I would receive an email of reassurance from John Lewis that haberdashery was safe – and more importantly not being downgraded. Nor did I have any...
Wed, Nov 09 2016

Deaf Girly's John Lewis Haberdashery update
Deafinitely girly Ok, so my Twitter followers will know that yesterday I set up a petition to save John Lewis Haberdashery departments after news articles appeared on The Telegraph and The Pool.  And here's why I did it! When I was four years old, my grandmother made me a party dress. It was white, with puffed sleeves and the prettiest pink floral smocking across the front. I wore t...
Tue, Nov 08 2016

Deaf Girly and the Hearing Dog
Deafinitely girly Meet Hebe – my dog daughter! On this very Thankful Friday, I'd like to introduce you to Hebe – a Hearing-Dog-in-training – who I have sponsored with Hearing Times in return for writing my column for them. You can read all about that here. Sponsoring a Hearing Dog is very easy – you have several options: a monthly payment of £3, £5, or £10 a month or a o...
Fri, Oct 21 2016

Always love on this day
Deafinitely girly Today I'm sat at my desk. I am at work.On this day for too many years, I can remember exactly where I've been. The day, all those years ago, I remember the clearest.Today is about remembering the person who taught me along side one my favourite people in the whole world to love the big scary world that is London. The guy who watched episode after episode of Grand Des...
Thu, Oct 20 2016

10 things my deafness makes me better at
Deafinitely girly The other day I was thinking about what I might be like if I wasn't deaf. Firstly, I wouldn't be here as Deafinitely Girly. I'd probably be blogging about other things though... but this wouldn't include defending myself against a coat stand with a hot water bottle and many of the other scrapes I've found myself in as a result of not hearing much. But what abo...
Wed, Oct 19 2016

Deaf Girly and guessing words
Deafinitely girly One of the reasons I find 'listening' so tiring is that an awful lot of guessing goes into what I think I might be hearing...I've always had to guess what words are – I remember being in my teens and my amazing audiologist at the time showing me the speech banana in relation to my audiogram and explaining that was why I was so bad at 'hearing' words. I'm missing con...
Thu, Sep 22 2016

Deaf Girly: Hearing in my dreams
Deafinitely girly Recently, I've been having nightmares. Nightly. Which wake me up at 5am, in a sweat. They're the kind of dreams that make you get up and go and stick the kettle on, staring out the window as you wait for it to boil, willing your brain to stop whirring with whatever hideous thoughts were in it – the thoughts that jarred you awake.The past few times this has happened,...
Mon, Sep 19 2016

Deaf Girly hears an echo (echo)
Deafinitely girly Living in London, I sometimes forget that the general din of the city drowns out other things. I know, when I'm walking down the street that the only thing I am hearing is the chugging of busses. Conversation, laughter and any other general noises, including a cyclist yelling at me to get out of her way – which happened today – are all lost.Whenever I head back to...
Mon, Sep 12 2016

Deaf Girly's and the world of work
Deafinitely girly The fab peeps over on Twitter will know that since I quit my job to write a book and be an au pair, then got a permanent job for one year and then left it again, I've been going it alone in the world of employment. With varying degrees of success.But this morning as I was walking to one of the offices I am working at, I suddenly realised I should in fact feel incredib...
Tue, Sep 06 2016

Deaf Girly and subtitled LIVE iPlayer
Deafinitely girly OK, so regular readers will know how much I rant about lack of accessible content online. Things like out of time subtitle on a programme that aired two days ago and was pre-recorded – There's No Such Thing As The News – although to be fair, the @iPlayer peeps on Twitter were great at sorting that out.Or subtitles that quite simply aren't there on some days – wh...
Thu, Jul 28 2016

Deaf Girly and the cinema
Deafinitely girly Regular readers will know that I love going to the cinema but rarely go due to the lack of times and venues showing the movies I want with subtitles. And I know I am not alone in my plight.Recently, I've been keeping quite erratic working hours which rather brilliantly means I've been able to attend the 3pm screenings of movies with subtitles, but with my working hour...
Wed, Jul 20 2016

Deaf Girly and the tax man Part 2
Deafinitely girly I am now in year three of doing my self assessment for HMRC – having never done this before in my life, I liken my capabilities to that of a Year 3 school child, but one that needs extra coaching at every turn.When I decided to quit my job, rent out my flat, become and au pair and write a book, I didn't envisage that the most stressful thing in all that would be fil...
Wed, Jul 06 2016

Deaf Girly and 4th July
Deafinitely girly Eighteen years ago today, two of my favourite people got married. On Independence Day. The very best date for those two people.It was amazing. It was hot and sunny. Everyone was happy.And I played my flute during the signing of the register. It was one of the last times I played my flute in public. And it was definitely the best time.Sometimes you live specific days a...
Mon, Jul 04 2016

Deaf Girly and the whistling
Deafinitely girly If there's one thing I know I deafinitely cannot hear, it's whistling. And I know this because FJM whistles a lot and to me, it looks like he's pouting. His tunefulness is wasted on me.But last night for some bizarre, unknown reason, I decided to try whistling as we were clearing up the kitchen before going to bed. I couldn't hear myself, but what I could feel was the...
Thu, May 26 2016

Deaf Girly and the doctor
Deafinitely girly One day, I am really worried that my deafness is going to kill me.Not in the 'walking out in front of an emergency vehicle because I haven't heard the siren' kill me – although that has almost killed me on no less than four occasions – but in a 'it's so hard to access the NHS' kill me.This morning, I went to the GP. I have been thinking about getting an appointmen...
Mon, May 23 2016

Meeting Deaf Girly's deaf heroine
Deafinitely girly For those of you who don't know, I have written a book. It's not there yet – I thought it was, as someone who has never written a book may think, but it's not. Quite a few of the lovely agents who I sent it to have said this.Actually some of them have turned me down in such a nice way, I've had a little cry at the wonder of lovely words and it's given me hope. ...
Tue, May 17 2016

Deaf Girly and the vibrating alarm clock
Deafinitely girly Recently I've been getting up at 5.45am to write, bake and generally fit more into the day. And I'm loving the difference it's making to how much I achieve.However, FJM is loving it less. You see, my iPhone vibrate isn't loud enough to wake me up. So that means, every morning at 5.45am, my phone goes off, I keep on sleeping like a baby and FJM has to wake me up. Poor ...
Wed, Apr 20 2016